A conversation the other day brought a flash of revelation – I will always reach for another ‘why?’. My girlfriend and I were talking about illness, owing to a tough medical diagnosis a member of her extended family had recently received.
Typically, I find myself in a difficult position when the conversation shifts to such medical issues, owing to my firm belief that all illnesses and afflictions are merely symptoms of a some sort of unresolved inner turmoil, driven into reality by conflicting beliefs and an unwillingness to follow the messages being sent by your soul, which may or may not know best, but certainly knows what is driving you, at the deepest level. And in this way, your soul knows better than anyone when you are willfully putting yourself on the wrong track. That is, when you are pitting your outer beliefs – your ‘human’ ones – against your own inner beliefs.
It can be hard to accept a gift you don’t really want
In my view, illnesses are more productively viewed as gifts – messages of love from your soul, telling you clearly that you are not on the right track, and offering a metaphorical explaination of how and why, and what you need to do to get back to where you really want to be. Unfortunately, this is not something that many people want to hear. Many react rather emotionally to this kind of suggestion, looking in every direction for the answers, except the most obvious place to look. They are offended – often highly offended – that somebody could have the gall to conceptualise illnesses, even grave ones, as ‘gifts’.
So back to the situation I began discussing at the outset.
I happened to be reading a book, written by someone who I thought would be an ideal person for this family member with the tough diagnosis to talk to. As I am no believer in coincidences, this realization was good enough for me to begin questioning whether it was my place to suggest a contact to the author. To be clear, I’m not a person who believes in butting in to other people’s business. And I’m pretty clear in the understanding that solutions to problems – such as illness – cannot be forced upon people. They must decide they would like to find them, and when they do the information they need to heal themselves will make itself available to them. That is, you’ll be extremely lucky if you can even metaphorically lead the horse to water – much less convince him to drink. But if he decides he wants to drink, at the deepest healing level, then the water will literally appear in front of him – or rather closeby at least.
If you’re interested the book in question is ‘New Chakra Healing’ by Cyndi Dale.
My girlfriend responded, saying something along the lines of, “yes, but you just started reading the book the other day, and you’re only half way through! How can so suddenly be sure that this is somebody that has the answers needed. And besides, if he/she were interested in alternative treatment, there is loads of it out there that they could investigate and try.”
And these are fair enough comments.
However, for many years now I have relied on intuition when faced with a difficult choice, or a situation seemingly with an overwhelming number of possibilities. On the whole, this intuition has been a fantastic ally. Admittedly, I sometimes rationalize – over rationalize – choices up and down and all around. But in the end, my intuition always seems to get the last laugh …and last say in the matter in question.
My intuition in this case was telling me that this is somebody that could and would help, if help was requested. Nothing more, nothing less. Was she the the only person who could help? Of course not! The answers are always out there in many forms, from many sources, if you are open to finding, receiving (and ultimately absorbing) them.
On the other hand, I know full well that you can’t force help on anybody. You can suggest it in a friendly way, lay out a clear path for them to follow if they want to find it, but that’s about it. If the person who could benefit from the help available is open to it, then they may choose to accept the offer. If not, there’s not much to do.
Which brings me back to the thought expressed in the title of this article, the one about constantly reaching for ‘whys’.
A searching determination
There are those, like myself, who search for answers to the varous issues that have entered their conscious simply because these issues inevitably take the form of unresolved or unanswered questions, and quite simply, questions are meant to be answered.
When you consciously search for answers, you will consciously receive the answers, in one form or another. But answers are never an end in themselves. Even the most satisfying answers eventually lead to more questions – that is, more ‘whys’. Always.
I believe that in their hearts, most people are precisely the same sorts of ‘why?’ people, as I am. Unfortunately, for one reason or another, many have trained themselves to stop asking ‘why?’ on a seemingly endless loop, and instead settle with an earlier answers they have received, perhaps to a similar but lower level question, regardless of whether they are entirely satisfying answers or not. Or perhaps they have simply given up having never really found a satisfactory answer. Or perhaps the answer they found just didn’t sit well with them.
It’s an understandable way of thinking because it is practical – if the ability to ask ‘why?’ is limitless, then why bother to continue asking? Why not just take the easy way out? The questions are countless, as are the answers. A faster solution, which may seem the easiest, is to simply send back a (metaphorical) message akin to, ‘Sorry, hard disk full. No more space available. Therefore, unable to process question at this time.’
But the truth is that it never really is. There is always room for more.
